Today is the last day of WEEK 21 in the Master Keys Experience and I had an epiphany this week about EMOTIONS.  This week the Franklin makeover was continuing and my two words that I was looking for in others and within myself were COURAGE and IMAGINATION.  Have
TYLER Vyou ever heard someone say “never make decisions when you are emotional?”  Absolutely we all have.  I read the Og Mandino Scroll VI this week in “the Greatest Salesman in the World” and it hit me like a freight train.  So obvious so astonishing a thought that all my life I have made decisions without considering emotions.

The little guy in the picture is Tyson.  A week or so ago in my living room he came to sing to a group of about 25 people.  He is 8 years old and was discovered locally as a talent that could rival Michael Bublet.  How does Tyler fit into the story I’m weaving in your mind this week?  I promise you this week’s blog will give you something incredible to change your life…if you are prepared to read to the end where there is a special passage that I need you to promise to read.  Promise me you will?  Okay, please continue.

When we were children most of us were born Golden.  We were born with innocence and slowly over time that Golden Buddah statue that we are began inheriting this crust.  Layer by layer this cement crust would cover up our innocence and most of that crust comes from the things we hear and see around us.  Media, parents, our government and school systems pour thoughts into our subconscious mind which as we know does not sleep.

Tyson stood up in front of a room of 25 that day and he has stood in front of many more.  He has won awards, opened up at arenas and some say he may be bigger than life.  You can Google Tyson Venegas if you like and find his Youtube videos on the internet.  If you are like me and all that saw him that day, you will be blown away.  Tyson had no fear that day and at his age it was evident that he was expressing himself with passion and only the emotions of love and caring for others.  He wasn’t afraid…he wasn’t paid money to sing to us…his mother was sitting on the floor beside him as he sang with this incredible smile so big I could only smile inside and out myself.  Tyson’s emotions were clearly of love and happiness.

It reminded me of when I was a child and my father bought me a guitar.  I grew up in a rather difficult situation where my dad forced his will on us and our Golden Buddah’s became fearful at an early age.  Guitar is a magical instrument and today I play both acoustic and electric and I quite love the experience.  However back then when I was Tyson’s age I was forced to play for family and friends who visited our house and I hated it.  Hate is a serious word but I hated it and now that I think back, my emotions were so heavy that I couldn’t express myself like Tyson.  So why do I love to play today?  And I can stand up in front of people and speak to crowds of thousands as a business executive and professional trainer?  It’s because I have mastered my emotions and understood what makes me fearful.  When I hated playing to others, it wasn’t because the guitar was not a beautiful thing, it was because in my upbringing my father who didn’t know well enough his impact on others, created an emotion of fear and failure in me.  I couldn’t do right no matter what and he was always criticizing every little thing.  Soon the subconscious mind began to believe that the body was no good, that it couldn’t succeed at anything.  BAM!  That emotion plagued me in everything I did.  Swimming lessons, playing guitar in front of a room of family or whatever it was I was reacting in a way that was unlike our friend Tyson.

Some Human beings feel that the pathway to success is to criticize others, point out their faults consistently.  That is wrong.  You can find that Golden Buddah in anyone you know if you shower them with praise when they need it, if you focus on positive thoughts, if you let them create from within what we all know is present in everyone of us…greatness.

I honour Tyson’s mother because she has a gift that many parents don’t realize they have.  We have the gift to shape our children’s futures with our emotions.  Give more positives and love, get more in return.  When I met Tyson and gave him a fist pump, I could tell there was something special about this little boy.  He was in total control of his emotions that day and when he was singing you could feel he was living his bliss.

I have spent the last two weeks in my business life around many people.  I Chair a not for profit Organization, I work with a financial insurance company as a mentor and leader to others, and I help thousands in my network marketing business.  Each day I come across people who are Golden and then others who have so much crust or cement built up on themselves that they can’t function effectively.  I have developed my purpose to love all of those people and help those like me find their bliss.  We are all Tyson’s inside.

That brings me to the close of my blog where I want to quote from Og Mandino Scroll VI.  To all my friends and blog readers, please read this carefully and all I ask is that you consider the meaning of it as a way to help others.

“Today I will be master of my emotions”.  And how will I master my emotions so that every day is a happy day, and a productive one?  I will learn this secret of the ages:  Weak is he who permits his thoughts to control his actions; strong is he who forces his actions to control his thoughts.  Each day, when I awaken, I will follow this plan of battle before I am captured by the forces of sadness, self-pity and failure—

     If I feel depressed I will sing.  If I feel sad I will laugh.  If I feel ill I will double my labour.  If I feel fear I will plunge ahead.  If I feel inferior I will wear new garments.  If I feel uncertain I will raise my voice.  If I feel poverty I will think of wealth to come.  If I feel incompetent I will remember past success.  If I feel insignificant I will remember my goals.

I will know that only those with inferior ability can always be at their best, and I am not inferior.  There are days when I must constantly struggle against forces which would tear me down.  Those such as despair and sadness are simple to recognize but there are others which approach with a smile and the hand of friendship and they can also destroy me.  Against them, too, I must never relinquish control—-

     If I become overconfident I will recall my failures.  If I overindulge I will think of past hungers.  If I feel complacency I will remember my competition.  If I enjoy moments of greatness I will remember moments of shame.  If I feel all-powerful I will try to stop the wind.  If I attain great wealth I will remember one unfed mouth.  If I become overly proud I will remember a moment of weakness.  If I feel my skill is unmatched I will look at the stars.  

Today I will be master of my emotions.

And with this new knowledge I will also understand and recognize the moods of him on whom I call.  I will make allowances for his anger and irritation of today for he knows not the secret of controlling his mind.  I can withstand his arrows and insults for now I know that tomorrow he will change and be a joy to approach.  

Today I will master my emotions.

Thanks for stopping by this week my friends…I look forward to WEEK 22 of the Master Keys Experience.  Peace. 


  1. Adeline Primus

    It is amazing to recognize the influence we can have on a young soul by our actions and reactions to each other. I was also overly criticized in my life … I now recognize this and that some people through their own fears cannot help themselves with their actions . Good for to see this today and make the changes in how you perceive life and to move forward from the negative actions of others!

  2. Kathy Zimmer

    Awesome blog Tom!

    So many people don’t realize that controlling and managing our emotions can either propel us to victory or keep us wallowing in mediocrity our whole life.
    Your thoughtfully crafted blog is a wonderful reminder to all of us to continue to strive to live our bliss as young Tyson is living his.

  3. Anna Dutta

    Powerful, Tom! I have been blessed to have many near and dear to me in having this same journey, and grateful to have them in my life…I have learned so much from them and love and admire as to how much they have had to overcome to be the most extraordinary people they are today. Many would not have guessed it as they portray a self confidant, positive and loving person.

  4. Bob Paterson

    Beautiful post Tom! Mastering the Emotions is so difficult for most people, but for us , who have taken this journey, it is easily attainable !

  5. david sigler

    Thanks Tom for sharing. Through this we learn we are not alone and more importantly that we can do something about what ever it is that we need to improve upon, change, expel. I for one learn from you (almost) every time we speak! 🙂

  6. Michelle Mangrum

    Thanks so much Tom. It hit me like a ton of bricks reading from your blog:
    I will learn this secret of the ages:
    Weak is he who permits his thoughts to control his actions;
    strong is he who forces his actions to control his thoughts.
    Each day, when I awaken, I will follow this plan of battle before I am captured by the forces of sadness, self-pity and failure—
    Amazed how we can read it over and over, and when seen or heard away from it’s original form – It is magical!

  7. Alice Eubank

    Thanks for your wonderful post and for sharing your story. I watched a couple of Tyson’s videos and was “blown away!” That kid has great presence.

  8. Cyndria Coaty

    Your post is a reminder to us that children are very impressionable and we (as adults) have a responsibility to help them develop their gifts with love…as love never fails. Thank you for your post.

  9. Carol Marsocci

    What a lesson on emotions Tom! I have come here to read your blog several times this week as it spoke to me in many ways. Children are like sponges and learn so much from everyone around them. What a wonderful world it would be if each and every child grew up with “0” cement! Thank you!!!


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